Assalamualaikum.
Today I nak cakap sangat pasal family planning ni in terms of nak tambah ahli keluarga.
So saat ni ada la masa sikit nak taip blog.
Bila bercakap soal nak tambah ahli atau anak, kita pasti akan mengambil kira soal
kemampuan dari segi kewangan, kemampuan emosi dan tenaga fizikal kita.
Meskipun Allah kata setiap yang lahir ada rezekinya, kita masih meragui.
To me, I agree that every child born has rezeki from Allah.
Tapi I meragui my capability of handling my kids.
Dengan kita bekerja, selalu penat, letih sangat.
Dua anak kat rumah ni pun dah cukup tak menang tangan hehehe.
My time with husband pun agak limited.
Selalu kena 'tinggal' tengok tv sorang-sorang because I fell asleep with my children.
while I should only put them sleep.
As time goes by, my husband become more relax and getting used with that " sori yang I tertidur huhu" I penat mawar this and that qimy this and that :) macam tulah alkisahnya! hehehe.
So hati tu memang nak tambah, tapi dilemma u know...
Until yesterday...
He spoke something that blowing my mind and made me thinking that I should not be selfish over my kids. Who is he? He is our dealer. His name is Lim or I call him Mr Lim. A Chinese guy and really close to my boss. He is very friendly and a family man obviously.
"Maya, you berapa orang anak?"
I said I got two children.
"You tak mau tambah lagi ke, make it three". I smile.
I said I couldn't afford physically. I've always tired and taking care of two are pretty exhausting.
(Well...is not that I complaining. I'm so grateful for that rezqi definitely!
He said, 'today, you must have at least 2 kids but 3 is the best (he said based on financial aspect but honestly he prefer 5 !)
Why? Kenapa?
Because if you have one child, you're not being fair to your child. You will make him/her feel lonely all the way long until he is getting old, he doesn't have sibling to share any great moment. He play alone while you're doing chores and so on.
He will live alone the rest of his life. That was deep indeed. I don't want you to feel regret. Why not you go for number 3. You can take my advice or just forget it. It's up to you.
You must sacrifice for the sake of goodness. Imagine when hari raya, they will rotate amongs them and you as a parent later will feel grateful for that.
That is so thoughtful.
Now I hope husband can come home early for family planning strategy hahaha. No really I mean it.
Kawan2 jom kita pakat tambah. Berkorban demi anak-anak and hari tua kita besok.
My mom yang anak 10 orang tu pun kadang2 rasa lonely sangat sebab adik2 yang last semua dah keluar belajar, ada yang kerja. Apatah lagi dengan I yang anak dua orang ni.
So I nekad, biarpun penat I redha. Thank you Mr Lim for the brilliant thought I guess.
I want to post it on Facebook but I cancel it. I don't want to hurt anyone. I know getting one child is not like easy-peasy. It's a hard effort and the rest is up to Allah our Creator to give. So let it be here in my personal blog. Sesiapa yang sudi baca atau terbaca harap mendapat manfaat :)
Mari buang perkataan penat dan gantikan dengan senyuman seikhlasnya untuk anak-anak. They will do the same to you later insyaallah. That's all for now :)
